I am seventeen as well as me as well as my beloved have motionless which you unequivocally wish the baby soon.. Maybe when we am 18. We both have jobs as well as time for the baby we only can’t confirm if we should stay the cheerleader as well as hearten in collage with the probability of the scholorship or begin my family which only feels so right right now.. And if it helps my beloved unequivocally wants the baby right right away as well as well as he pronounced he will await me with whatever preference we make
College first. Children cost a lot of money to raise. If you go to college you increase your earning power. Also you will be older and more mature and better able to handle everything that comes with raising a child and supporting a family.
Have you watched the show 16 and pregnant I think you should..
Anyways no if you get a baby you wont be able to enjoy going to clubs and stuff like that. I think you should go to Collage.
YOU ARE WAYYY TO YOUNG
i dont really believe you too are ready…you have plenty of time for a family later on
could u do both? i would start a family! u could always go back to collage later! but first get married if u want a family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Go to college first. I think having a baby that young is not the right thing to do, but honestly it is your choice in the end. Wait until 19 or 20, then have a baby.
r u dumb
I can see where youre comming from. im 18 next month and my boyfriend and i both want a baby but ive decided college first and hold off a year or 2 so i can save up because babies are so small but oh so expensive.
Personally Im going to say Be a cheerleader and have the time of your life in college and then Go ahead and have the baby :] You only have one chance to be a cheerleader and you have a lifetime to be a mommy :]
Is your boyfriend willing to make a lifetime commitment to you before bringing a child into the world? Will he support you and the baby when you have to take time off to have this child? If he leaves you, do you have the emotional and financial stability to raise the child by yourself? Is your family supportive? Babies are cute but they are extremely demanding on your time and your sanity. Is your relationship strong enough to withstand a child who may cry a lot or who is born with physical or mental challenges?
You need to consider the answers to these questions before you make a decision you can’t take back. I hope you decide to stay in school and keep on cheerleading. A baby changes everything and you wouldn’t want to resent an innocent child for taking away the most fun years of your life. If your boyfriend loves you, he’ll understand that there is no hurry. You will do your future child a favour by waiting until the time is right.
if it was me, i would start the family now. you can do both. you can go to college and stay a cheerleader for another semester, and by the time the semester is over you’ll prolly be showing a little bit. depends on when you get pregnant i suppose.
anyways, you can continue on with school as well. you said you and your boyfriend both have jobs, that is good. you can, again, continue on with school. you could have an entire semester in (maybe even two) before you have the baby. then you could cut down on school time and/or work out a schedule.
i’m not sure how good your jobs are or how often you work, but if you can, try to take as many hours in school as you can. but if you have to work a lot because the job doesn’t pay THAT well, well just cut back a few credits, and catch up in the summer. you can take summer classes and have 13, 14, 15 credits earned in 8 weeks.
another way to ensure you don’t miss out on school is TAKE ONLINE CLASSES!!! this will allow you to be at home. you can do the work while your little one is sleeping, or when your boyfriend is home. it will also give you more time with your boyfriend and baby, and you wont miss out on so many of the little (but very precious) things that come with the growing child.
another thing i would suggest is start a savings account in case you are ever in a tight spot. just a little amount out of every pay check can add up fairly quickly and get you far when you find yourself stuck in a pickle. you could also start saving for college. same thing. taking 50 dollars out of every paycheck (25 each) to save for college gives you about $46,000 towards college by the time the baby would be 18. which is a great start for college. (i did the math already for my kids lol)
if you decide to start a family, i also recommend you have at least 1 reliable vehicle. and health insurance. make sure you are both ready mentally not just physically. think about all the sacrifices (but yet how rewarding it is) and think of ways your life will change.
i’m not sure how long you two have been wanting a family, but if this was a spur of the moment thing, not one of those distant aches in the back of your mind for quite sometime, wait it out. you never want to jump the gun on a decision this life changing. if you just started wanting a family, wait a couple of months and see if its still what you want.
best of luck to the both of you
no…go to college first so you can have a decent life for ur future child.
Ask him one question, then wait for the answer.
Ask him will you marry me?
If he’s yes,
Tell this time next year will get married, and have are own place. And when we are settled, lets make a baby. Check for his response.
If he ask how are we going to do this in a year, tell him if we can figure it out we may not be ready to have a baby!
I am not a virgin far from it. But when you have a child with a person if you like it or not he will always be apart of your life.
What I’m tryin to say if he’s not ready to commit to you, is he ready to commit to family life?
Haha when I get older and have a boyfriend I would want to start a family too. But I would want to wait until I’m married for children & giving away my virginity.
But its your choice. I’m not gonna judge. But yes they do cost money. =]
Its what you want!!!
Go to school. There is no worse feeling than not being able to give your kids the things they want and need, decent medical care or proper dental care, because you can’t qualify for a good enough job. The days are long gone where you can rise up in a company without a college education, no matter how good you get at the job. Familys are wonderful, but it’s better to wait till you can give them and yourself enough of an advantage.
Hi honey,
I am going to give you the advise that no one ever told me:
Children change everything
My husband and I have to very beautiful children, and yes they mean the world to me. I thank the Lord everyday for allowing me to be there mother. But, things are so different now. I have a 1 yr. old and a 2 yr. old and they have so much energy that they ware my husband and I out. We went from always being alone and having all the intimate time in the world, to never being alone, having hardly no intimate time, and sex about once every month or two.
If you are not ready to have your whole world to change (some are in good ways, and some are in bad ways) then don’t have kids until you are older.
good luck.
No offense, but you two are pretty young! You have your whole life ahead of you! Why be tied down by a baby? If you want a baby, I say you should just do some babysitting for now.
How will you provide for your child if you skip college? Why give up your years when you’re young to raise a baby? You have the rest of your life ahead of you! Don’t miss out because of a baby!
r u serious?!? u must be one those sad teens who only see themselves with a baby cuz nobody seems to love u! what good is it if u have a baby now at 17/18 yrs old? would u rather be viewed by the public that ur a young teen who wants a baby to play with?
u need to watch the show 16 and preggo, raising kids isnt how our parents raised kids in the old days! it is way 2 expensive now to have kids thats why u need a college education. lets say u had a baby now, bf is happy right? i can imagine later on he is pissed cuz he cant hang out with his buddies at the club and he has to stay home with u with the kid.
then, u 2 fight and he is out of ur life. some bf huh? would u want a baby if he turns into a sorry asshole? ur 17 why r u acting like ur 29 and already been there done that? this topic really angers me when i see someone young who wants a kid. obviously, u must have some kind of low self esteem issue if u think a baby is gonna make u feel complete!
this is 2009 not 1960 where there were actually jobs and real men! im 23 i dont want any kids and i have a bf we have been together for 4 yrs now. im not rushing to have his kids just so i can feel happy! dont have kids cuz its the “cool thing 2 do” because that is very selfish.
sorry u dont like this advice tough luck, ppl are gonna tell u things u dont wanna hear anyway. i kinda wonder did ur mother not sit down with u and talk to u about how hard it is to raise kids at a young age and wait on having kids until u have an education? it sure dont sound like it.
what i dont get is why is ur bf wanting a baby so bad? thats unlike a young man. young men arent like women who are in a rush to have a baby so they can be happy. u and ur bf havent even lived life yet u two want a baby so bad. what has the media done to young teens?